Your skin is your barrier to the world. It seals you off from anything external and preserves / protects what you have inside.
But there are chinks in this armour. Areas that do allow things in. That allow images and sounds in. Some of these images and sounds can affect your internal equilibrium. They can rock your thoughts, feelings and emotions. They can awaken the chimp part of your brain and induce automatic reactions. They can confirm or break your beliefs.
How to manage the chinks in your Armour
So how do you filter what comes in? What can you do to strengthen yourself against over or under reaction?
You can start by knowing and understanding yourself. Consider what you believe your strengths and weaknesses are. Use feedback you have had from others to confirm your beliefs or ask for more.
Add into your self-study, what your values are and learn why these play such a huge part in your happiness. Use this recipe to then live your life being true to your ‘natural self’.
Recognise those in your communities who you connect well with, who support and cheer you on. Enjoy their company, use their positive and optimistic energy to build your confidence and fulfilment from simply being you. Boost each other to that higher level of self awareness and feeling of being cared for in a safe environment.
5 tips to filter the chinks in your Armour
What else can you do to filter the inputs? Here are some thoughts:
- In situations where you may over or under react, pause by breathing at least two deep breaths to level your gut reaction, to process the affect of the input and steady the wave of emotions that may have washed over you.
- Consider that the input may not have been for you (a frown on the face of a meeting attendant as you speak may be about something they are thinking that is unrelated to you).
- Understand that some inputs are a result of others not filtering their own reactions / thoughts and may even be a projection of internalised criticism of themselves.
- Believe that one single input does not mean that all inputs will be the same, survey (if you must) for confirmation.
- Remember that the input may come from a place inside an individual who is hurting / working through something themselves and probably not what they truly intended.
Protecting your Armour
With your skin as your armour, it needs protecting. Although some inputs inevitably get in and no end of filtering has allowed the odd sneaky input to affect you, there are still ways to weaken the affect.
My recommendation is to use Happy Anchors to strengthen your inner filters. A Happy Anchor is something that restores your strength and returns you back to your ‘natural self’. Happy Anchors can come in many forms, which can be as individual as you are.
Here are some ideas:
- A beautiful plant on your desk at work – it continues to grow and look amazing despite what might be going on around it – you can do the same.
- A favourite photo on your phone – always available to remind you of a loved one, a funny moment or somewhere you’d rather be!
- A song you can play – sing and dance along like no one else is there!
- A favourite food to give yourself some happiness on the inside 🙂
- Some inspirational quotes that resonate with you.
- Treasured trinkets from moments in time that spark fond memories, like the ticket to a concert you went to that was simply mind blowing.
- A list of achievements in your life that you are proud of.
- A favourite item of clothing.
- A favourite scent to wear.
Have fun with Happy Anchors, build your very own bespoke support mechanism and enjoy collecting more along the way.
Need help to strengthen Your Skin as Your Armour?
If this blog has sparked something in you and you want to work more on protecting your skin as your armour, click the link ‘here‘ to allow me to assist. We will work together to build and enhance your armour’s strength, your ability to filter and explore some fun and unique Happy Anchors along the way.
Remember, your skin is your armour. Fill it up with strength, happiness and love. Reduce the chinks by filtering more closely.
Your happiness is worth it 😉